Relationship Concerns

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” — Rumi

Deeply satisfying relationships are among the greatest joys in life. The art of building a successful relationship does not come automatically out of the blue, but it is something you can learn. Psychotherapy can help.

Whether you are experiencing difficulties with an intimate partner, family member, friend or workplace relationship, therapy can help you identify old patterns that may be holding you back as well as helping you clarify the type of relationships you want and ways to begin creating them.

How does therapy help?

If you are seeking therapy because you are currently in crisis, we will first focus on relieving any distressing feelings or life problems arising from these difficulties.

Or perhaps you are not currently in crisis, but have reached a point where you feel ready to take active steps to address long-standing difficulties in relationships.  You may be dealing with issues such as loneliness, estrangement from a family member or friend, inability to heal after a painful breakup, difficulty dating,  or conflict with a boss or co-worker. Therapy is a space where you can be heard without judgment. The complexity and uniqueness of your circumstance will be honored. With respect and confidentiality, I can help you listen to your own wisdom about what is right for you so that you can begin making more satisfying decisions.

As immediate distressing feelings are relieved, we can begin to explore the unconscious patterns operating in your relationship history. My goal is to help you decode core emotional patterns and to help you identify underlying fears, needs and values. We have all been shaped by our past experiences, and we tend to unconsciously repeat old patterns until we work them through. Understanding the experiences that have influenced you can bring valuable insight and perspective to your current situation. Change requires expanded awareness. Self-knowledge is power. As you come to integrate past and present, you gain more freedom to make choices that will serve you well in the future.